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It’s so interesting how we can “know” things about ourselves but not know them in such a way as to affect change and really understand them. This for me is the key to successful therapy – finding a trusting and safe place to say absolutely everything because often, we know the things we’re holding back,Continue reading “Stop the clocks”

Recently I have upped my efforts to acquaint myself with birdsong. I can just about recognise robin, magpie, chiff chaff, blue tit, great tit, the obvious ones like cuckoo and wood pigeon (coo coo – so cute), probably a variety of crows that I just call Crow. During my earlier walk, I wasn’t seeing manyContinue reading “Connecting and grounding through nature”

I’ve always struggled to be my own friend and support, but when you’re someone who needs external validation, the advice is always be for yourself what you want from others. That means I have to make a super duper effort to be kind to myself and approve of myself, and know that if I’m expressingContinue reading “Be your own champion”

I’ve been looking out for birds collecting sticks and other bits for their nests. It makes me chuckle to watch as they grapple with sticks that are a little too big, and sometimes still attached to the tree. They’re so diligent and wonderful to watch. Today I feel sad and I have been thinking reallyContinue reading “Birds collecting sticks and other bits”

“Notice the juxtaposition of the flamingo and the owl. The owl representing wisdom, the archetype of the wise man. In this instance it is in place of the therapist, behind the patient lying on the couch, represented here by the flamingo, crumpled in a state of incongruence*, seeking the council of the idealised sage …”Continue reading “Crumpled in a state of incongruence”

“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably theContinue reading “Soul mate”

It will be too complicated to go back and record every tiny insight and discovery in the order in which they occurred, so I start with what appeared to be the turning point for me. B occasionally uses Focusing and Somatic/Sensorimotor psychotherapy in our work. It has given me a way of visualising my emotionsContinue reading “2020 – A breakthrough! (pre-pandemic, obvs.)”

It’s difficult to say anything about the current situation, what with all the geopolitical analysis and brave journalists providing insight into what’s happening. I have nothing to add as I’m always the idealist and these issues perplex me. And it doesn’t feel right in some way, to express fear and distress from the safety ofContinue reading “Invasion of Ukraine 🇺🇦”

And I am GLOWING. I can’t believe I painted this. I’m so excited to paint. It gives me such energy, awe, excitement. So much.

Going to say it now while feeling uncharacteristically open and vulnerable : A shout out to all those counselling clients putting in the work. Including myself in this – Woah, I know! Self praise! Fuck it, this is my space. It’s hard but so worth it. But my god, it’s hard. Actually it’s hard, andContinue reading “On being a client (1)”